Sometimes you have to wonder to yourself about whether you are in the right relationship or not. Sometimes when we are broken up from a person we tend to think that we can't go on and that life isn't worth living without them. When we get back together with them then you say to yourself, "What was I thinking? They hurt my feelings. I am not a priority to them. I just don't get it."
You start to question whether you are in the right relationship. You start to feel like you are navigating your way through a minefield of dog poop just to keep from arguing with them. What's that about? That's no way to live. You don't want to live that way.
So it's time to ask yourself the BIG question. Are you really happy with that person? Now of course, you are not going to be wallowing in happiness 24/7, but if you are thinking, "Is this all there is?" then you should re-evaluate your situation. You should be happy more times than not.
If your significant other is doing or saying things that make you doubt your self worth and they make you feel pretty crummy most of the time then you are not getting that emotional safety from the relationship that you should be getting.
If you are pre-occupied with feelings of low self esteem then you are probably spending time thinking that they may be cheating on you. This can lead to you being suspicious, miserable and filled with negativity.
If you can't feel secure and trusting of the relationship then it just may not be the right one for you. You don't need that. That's no way to spend your days.
It's only human that we have the tendency to stay in this relationship because it's less painful than the foreboding breakup. Often times, "we remain the same until the pain of staying the same exceeds the pain of change". Eventually you will come to a point where this happens. Isn't it better to be in control of your life, realize the reality of what's going on and make the change first?
Think about it. Are you in the right relationship?
Do you feel special? Do you feel safe? You should feel like the #1 priority in
your partner's life.
The Magic of Making Up is more than just a book about how to make up with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. You owe it to yourself to give the book a try. It's a book that gives you guidelines for a healthy, happy relationship.
