If you were recently involved in a breakup but you want to get the guy back, then you need to listen up because the next actions that you engage in are going to be vital in determining whether or not you can get him back.
This is probably such an incredulously difficult time for you once your man has broken up with you. I know it makes you feel like life is hardly worth living.
You probably don't even feel like yourself. It's like having this huge hole in your heart and you feel like is never going to be repaired. You just don't know what to do or think, because you really don't feel like doing anything anymore.
Getting back together with someone who has broken up with you can be very, very difficult if you do not know what you are doing. If your ex decided that he no longer wanted to be with you then you may find it very hard for you to get him back, but you can still try if you feel so inclined.
That being said, you need to know what steps to take in order to get your guy back once he has broken up with you. First and foremost you need to make sure that getting back together with him is really what you are looking for. Really think this out! Don't go making a rash decision just because the pain is so great right now. Maybe getting your ex back isn't really the best thing for you. I mean if he broke up with you and caused you so much pain, are you sure that he is really worth going through all this? Is getting back together with him really what you want in your life right now, or will you benefit instead from some space and time?
The most critical aspect for you to consider once you decide that you want to get the guy back is to realize that sometimes relationships work and sometimes they don't. Some people are capable of making up and moving on with the relationship while others simply cannot rekindle things as they would like. Maybe there has been too much pain and heartache. Maybe things are way beyond saying I'm sorry. Maybe someone was physically abusive to the other. Whatever has happened...well, you better think about the situation before you decide whether you want to get involved again.
Even if, for some reason, you do not succeed right this moment, it will still be worthwhile to make an attempt to get guy back. Who knows what the future may hold? Just because you do not get him back right now, doesn't mean that your relationship will never be. You didn't break up in a day; don't expect to get back in a day.
One of the best things that you can do in order to get guy back is to stop worrying or acting desperately about the situation. You are not desperate, so don't act like you are. Simply admit to yourself that whatever is going to happen is going to happen. Call it KARMA, or DESTINY, or a GOD THING or FATE. Whatever will be, will be.
Don't worry about what he is doing or feeling while he's away. Let him live his life himself. It shouldn't make any difference to you anyway. Work on living your own life instead.
You need to be mature about the break up if you want to get your guy back. He needs to see this too. He doesn't want you back if you act like some kind of psycho mental case that is bent on stalking him all the time. Though acting mature may be the most difficult and stressful thing to do right now (because getting back with him is all you can think about), this is probably the most important thing that you can do!
You may want to try and limit contact with him when you are trying to get your guy back, so he will know that you are capable of moving on.
This will remind him of how much he enjoyed having you in his life. Allow him to miss you!
