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I don't know how you found me or how you found my blog, but I am glad you did. After you look around, you'll be glad too!

If you are hurting from a breakup then I wished we had met under happier circumstances. I know firsthand what a painful situation you are going through. It hurts so much that sometimes I felt like ending my life just so I could end the pain. Don't do that! In retrospect I can see how stupid that would have been! Look around the blog and I hope that you are able to pick up some tidbit of info that will help you feel better.

If you are here to discover some secrets to a happier relationship and ignite your passion once again, congratulations. You've come to the right place.

You can read through the posts and discover a lot of really useful information on securing a healthy relationship. There is also a very good book mentioned a few times in my blog. It is called, The Magic of Making Up. It is a great resource for mending and/or improving your relationship.

If you are not broken up then you can learn how to increase your passion.

If you are in a broken relationship, you can discover ways to heal your relationship.

Whatever is the right thing for you to do...enjoy your time here!

You can also leave me a comment if you have some ideas of your own or if you have a question. Check back often because I do respond to your comments.

Praying for the best for you,
Carole

Monday, November 23, 2009

5 Ways To Get Your Ex Back--Interested?

There are a variety of subjects which should be considered in order to keep a relationship healthy and strong. All of these have been thoroughly explored in this blog--if I haven't touched on them yet, then I will.

Relationships are fragile bonds that need to be built up and maintained in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Keeping a healthy relationship is a lot of work, but well worth whatever effort it takes. Through a natural cause of events, unfortunately, break ups do happen. They are beyond what we can conceive as painful and heart wrenching. They are more than just nerve wracking, stressful and frustrating. If you are involved in a relationship that breaks up, you may be thinking that you want to get back at your ex. First, you must confront yourself and ask, is this really the best step to take?

One of the most influential ways that you can actually start the process of getting back with your ex may put your ex in an interesting predicament. It may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them. So not only are these 5 tips excellent methods for getting your ex back, but they will also put your ex in the position of seeing you for what you really are. Not for how they are imagining you since the breakup. I am not an advocate of being vengeful, but often times these very steps will get back at your ex as well as get your ex back.

1) Be strong. No one needs the needy, and this saying also applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop begging, clinging or exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate. These days this is quite an achievement...what with cell phones, texting, IMing, Facebook and MySpace and all sorts of instant communication. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and giving your ex some space. Give your ex a chance to miss you. How can your ex miss you if you're still clinging to them like a vine on a grape arbor? DON'T BE CLINGY! When you have moved on, then you can proceed with winning your ex back.

2) Minimize communication. Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but it is one of the most important steps when getting your ex back. You don't want to smother your ex. Sort of think of things as a flame that you want to encourage to grow. Don't cut off the oxygen and smother it. Take a break from your ex, close off communication, and let him or her stew for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.

3) Be flexible. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Care more for their feelings than you do your own. Don't only be concerned with yourself and spend all of your time thinking 'me, me, me'. Be considerate of your ex's feelings too. Did you know they are going through a breakup also? Your ex might be surprised when they see this side of you, and it just may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when the breakup came into play.

4) Go out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends and get out of the house. Don't sit at home waiting for the phone to ring, all the while crying to yourself, because your ex isn't calling you. Develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This does not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.

5) Simply be yourself. If your ex fell in love with you once; it can happen again! There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well. You are valuable; you just need to give your ex the opportunity to realize it.