Have you ever been a relationship which is so powerful and makes the world seem bright and perfect when, all of a sudden, it seems like a tornado has ripped your heart out because your boyfriend tells you that he needs more space? Almost everyone has experienced this at one time or another.
There are many reasons why your boyfriend feels this way. Family problems, insecurities, or a fear of commitment are just a few. It's not that he physically needs more space, but often times his head is reeling with so many haunting ideas that he feels like he's got to simplify and pare down his emotions. Here are some tips for answering the age old "how to get my ex back" question if your ex boyfriend decides that he needs more space.
1) Give him some space. Don't be smothering him by making more demands on his time. It might even be ideal to play a little bit hard to get at first, in order to show him that yes, it was his loss and not your own. You definitely don't want to lose your pride, or to allow him to get the best of you. Clearly you are still in love with him. Show him this by respecting his wishes for a little bit of space.
2) Keep communication to a minimum in order to keep the level of drama to a minimum. Short text messages, brief phone calls and online conversations in passing are all a great way to remind him how much he wants to be a part of your life without overwhelming him with your presence when he may actually want and need space. Remember that conversation to a man is a totally different concept than it is to a woman, so he may not want to pour out his heart, but that's okay. You just want him to know that you are there if he needs someone to talk to.
3) Respect him. He's got to know that you respect him. And his wishes. If he knows this then eventually he will begin to show significant interest in you again. This will give you the chance to truly begin to reminisce with him. Keep in mind that your major focus should be primarily on all of the good memories associated with your relationship in the past. While rekindling a relationship with your ex boyfriend, you are going to want to stay away from the bad experiences and negative experiences in case they conjure bad feelings. You don't want to undo your hard work.
4) If your boyfriend is not responding to your slow and subtle advances in the way you would like, you need to take it for what it is. Either he just really is not interested in you right now, or he really does just need space and you should give it to him. Remember that men cannot multi-task. Your relationship with him may not be on the front burner and he just can't focus on it right now.That does not mean that he doesn't care. If he seems to be interested in you more than before, or is slowly warming up to you again, then you should continue gradually advancing on him to rekindle the relationship. But don't push. I still remember that physics analogy about following the path of least resistance. And most men do!
5) If your ex boyfriend is giving you the right signals, you can try to open your heart up to him. Let him know how you feel, but avoid looking desperate or needy in the process. If your ex is showing you that he is thinking about rekindling things, then it would be healthy to be open with him. If his signals are pointing at some other object, it may be wiser to step back and let things happen more naturally. You don't want to overwhelm him.
These are just the beginning steps in winning your ex back.
