Should you try to get back with your ex girlfriend when you think you can’t be away from her? When the time comes that you think you can’t live without her and your life is incomplete without her, you may have a challenge on your hands. It isn’t an impossible challenge, though. Fixing your relationship is something that you can do, but it will take a lot of introspection and thought about the situation. If you think you might want to get back your with ex girlfriend, you need to make sure that it is worth it.
If you are trying to figure out what makes you feel like you have to get back with your ex girlfriend in the first place then you need to ask yourself some questions. What was the reason for the break up in the first place? If it was your fault then look closely at what it was that you did. Was it due to your selfishness? Examining yourself this way is something that might be hard to do. Look at the actions you took. Were they the results of a self-centered person? If so, then what has changed? What makes you so sure that you are done being self-centered? Is this desire to get back with ex girlfriend a result of self-centered thinking? Hmmm...that's a good question.
Before you try to get back with your ex girlfriend, you need to make sure that it is a mutually beneficial relationship or it has very little chance of succeeding. If it is just something to try and fill a void in your life and heart then it may not be the best thing for both of you. You may have to live with the consequences of your selfish actions. Don’t expect to get taken back with open arms. You just have to know that if it isn’t good for both of you then getting back with your ex might not have good or positive results.
What if the shoe is on the other foot? If the reason that you broke up has more to do with her selfish actions, then what makes you think that she has changed or will change? Look closely at her actions. If there is genuine remorse and a willingness to change? If so then you might have a chance. You need to ask “is she just going to do the same things again?” If she has a pattern of acting out of selfishness in a way that is harmful to your relationship and to you then you probably don’t have a chance. If you have significant reason to believe that what she did isn’t going to repeat itself then maybe you should get back with ex girlfriend. You have to know that beyond the shadow of a doubt she is done looking out for only her self-interest and is more interested in something that is good for the both of you.
In either situation, whether it was because of your selfishness or hers, or even both, you need to fully believe that the both of you are going to benefit from your reconciliation.
