When in life were you ever taught how to get your ex boyfriend back? You probably weren't. It's not something that usually enters into the mainstream of teaching you about how to cope with life.
So...what do you do? Wing it? Just kind of feel your way through the situation and make it up as you go along? You probably ask your friends for their advice, but other than that you really don't know what to do. Well, guess what? Your friends probably have no better idea than you about what you should do. I guess in this area of relationship repair we are all pretty much clueless.
In response to the situation though, all you really need is a proven plan and then take action on that plan. You can win your boyfriend back!
1) The first thing that you need to do is to distance yourself from him. This allows you to gain back your composure. It allows you to preserve your sanity and it makes the statement to your ex boyfriend that you can survive. This will also give you some much needed time to regroup your feelings; pull yourself together and stop fixating on your ex. You need some time and space to concentrate on your own needs so that you can get through this very stressful time.
Seriously, make an effort to establish a sense of well being.
2) Secondly, make connections with friends and family. After all they are your best forms of support. They love you and care about you and will want to help and support you. Definitely the worst thing that you can do if you are determined about getting back with your ex is to isolate yourself. It's very unbecoming for a person to sit alone slobbering over a broken relationship. If you are sitting at home all teary eyed, sniffling and obsessing over your ex boyfriend that is not very attractive. Why would he want to come back to you when you are like that?
3) Thirdly, since you have some time to really think about the situation, what do you think was the cause of your breakup? Ask friends and family members what they saw as the downfall of your relationship. I am sure that your ex even had more than a few words to say about it as he walked out. I am sure you have your own ideas too, but don't dismiss the value of an objective observer. Look at things from your friend's or family's perspective too. Sometimes, because they can be more objective than you, they can make better sense of the situation.
If you are serious about making up with your ex boyfriend then you need to ask others for their opinions. This is going to be the best way for you to honestly evaluate the relationship.
Make sure and take into consideration everyone's opinions about the relationship. After you have gathered all the input from others then you have to make the final decision about what do want to do. Do you really want to get back with your ex? Are you sure? You need to make this decision based on the facts, not your emotions.
4) Finally, if you decide that what you want to do is get back with him, then you need to call him. You need to tell him how you feel. You need to let him know why you feel the way you do. Make sure and speak to him logically and calmly without all the drama. Guys hate drama!
