I Am Heartbroken, Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?

You've probably in a relationship for a while; you really never thought that it wasn't going to last and then, all of a sudden, BAM...he says it's over.

If you’ve just been through a breakup then at least several times a day you’re probably thinking to yourself, ‘Can I get my ex boyfriend back?” Every relationship is different, so every breakup is different. There are some common threads though of a healthy relationship that will work for you no matter what the reason that you broke up. There are some things you can do to help get him back.

Be nice.

That might go without saying, but some people think nagging is the best way to get what they want. It’s not. If you nag, complain or act unpleasant, you’re just reminding him of things he wants to get away from. If you make things uncomfortable every time you see him, he’ll only want to see you less and less. Remember what your mother always told you, "You can attract more bees with honey than you can with vinegar."

The last thing you want to do is drive him farther away. Be as pleasant as you can whenever you’re around him, unless the only way to do so is to be absolutely fake. Nasty is not good, fake is worse.

If you’re wondering, can I get my ex boy friend back by pretending to be this way or that way? then one would have to wonder why you want to be back with him anyway. You might be better off finding someone who doesn’t make you need to pretend. You need a relationship where you can be you. Honest, pure and real!

If you can be pleasant, then whatever problems you had before the breakup probably don’t seem nearly as important now. You might find yourself wondering why you weren’t more pleasant when you were together.

You can’t change the past, but you can learn from it when you’re back together. Point out situations in the past and let him know that you did take him for granted. He probably took you for granted too, but don’t expect him to admit it now.

Some other things you might be thinking of trying could either be disastrous or they could work in your favor.

Can I get my ex boyfriend back if he has a girlfriend?

This is probably the hardest situation to overcome. Not only is it difficult to be alone with him if he has someone else, he’s focused on the new relationship. You’re part of the past, and not a priority. Being nice right now is crucial. You have to make him see how wonderful you are and how much he’s missing. Don't try to sabotage his new relationship but make it evident to him that one is possible with you should he change his mind and want to come back.

Can I get my ex boyfriend back by trickery?

No matter what kind of deception you’re thinking of, even if it doesn’t seem harmful—forget it now. Even the most innocent-seeming lie or exaggeration could backfire later. What’s the point of figuring out how to get him back only to lose him a little while later because he finds out about your dishonesty? When you get him back you want it to be forever, so don't undermine your relationship before it hardly gets started.

Can I get my ex boyfriend back by making him jealous?

It’s possible, but it could also backfire and make him think you’ve moved on. If you really feel the need to date, then do so only if you need dating to be happy.

But if you’re considering going out with someone just to make your ex jealous, that’s not really fair to your date, or you. Games like this usually don’t work. Be honest with yourself and others, and you stand a better chance of getting back together with your ex. You are being unfair to yourself, your date and your ex.

These aren't my original ideas. I learned them from a book on fixing my relationship. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.